Break Free: Conquer Self-Concept Limitations

In this powerful episode, we embark on a transformative journey to break free from the shackles of self-concept limitations. Through empowering exercises and shadow-work, you can remove limiting beliefs and upgrade your own self-concept. This episode is a testament to the fact that with determination, belief, and the courage to embrace change, anyone can rewrite their story and achieve their wildest dreams. Get ready to break free and unlock the limitless potential that lies within you!

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if I told you that a belief one simple idea was holding you back. How would you react to that? Well, that is the truth about our self-concept. In the last episode on this three part series, I talked about how the self-concept affects what we can and cannot manifest or make certain in our lives. And in this episode, I'm going to unpack easy, practical ways that you can upgrade your self-concept. Now, to start with, it's really true. Self-Concept is just programing. It is just an idea. It is nothing more. And when you start realizing like, wow, there's all these things I'm not doing, not experiencing, not achieving because of an idea. I want to know how to change that idea. And this is a question that I asked myself a lot earlier in my journey. And I continue to ask myself every single day, how can I continue to upgrade my self-concept? And I've learned from my experiences, the results, that it's so worth it, how wonderfully things change. I mentioned the Tar Pit in the last episode. It's like freeing yourself from a carpet. So I want to talk about practical ways that you can do this in your own life. Starting today. Please start today. Now, at one point in time, I was at the gym doing crunches like a crazy woman because I was working on my app and a trainer kind of looked at me like with that knowing look and he said, you know, your core involves your front and your back muscles, too, so you've got to work them both together in order to get the results that you're looking for. I didn't know I was so grateful to him for telling me about this, and it totally changed how I approach that. And I think the same idea holds true when we're talking about how to upgrade our self-concept. A lot of people just want to go to the limiting beliefs and that is huge. And we got to talk about that here. And yes, our programing that we get in our early childhood. 70% of it does not serve us. Those are the lemming beliefs that are creating your self-concept, that is holding you back for sure. You want to work on that, but also an element that I found where I really started making the biggest headway in my self-concept. And you're not going to believe why this is so important was shadow work. And I know a lot of people and I initially was like, Oh, no, no, no, no. Just going to focus on the good stuff. I'll be over here getting awesome, right? I didn't want to focus on the shadow work, but then when I did, I really started to have even more exponential breakthroughs, things showing up, evidence of making certain the kind of experiences that I do want to have in life relationships, opportunities, feelings. And the reason I mentioned this is so interesting is because when we have the courage to look at our shadow side and to start healing that, bringing out out into the light. That in and of itself is a powerful upgrade to your self-concept because you know what you're saying to yourself. I'm not operating on fear any longer. I'm going to bring this out into the light and have the courage to face it and then usually find out. It's like I was afraid of a boogeyman under the bed that wasn't really there. I was just making it up in my head. And this is even more courage, more self-confidence, all of these wonderful things. So that's kind of an interesting dynamic, I think of the shadow work, and since I'm talking about shadow work, I'm just going to keep going with that and I'll come back to the limiting beliefs. And I notice an interesting experience I had of myself in my life that I think everybody will probably have to some degree, like all things of this discovery process on this life journey that we're on, it's never ending. It's always unfolding. It's like peeling the layers of an onion, right? And for me, I had a really big breakthrough. When I started working on judgment, I realized, Oh, this is just a conditioned habit. It's being done to me. I see it in the media. I do it to other people. My thoughts are going to this judgment and everything, and I'm applying this judge's judgments to myself. So I started working really hard on being less judgmental, more accepting, more compassionate, letting go, right? And I thought, Oh, man, I'm I'm doing it. I am seriously doing it. This is amazing. And then what I noticed was I was judging people for judging. I was like, Oh, God, the Achilles heel coming up right here. And as you could see, I'm laughing because that was literally the response. Because I do these things, I'm gamify it. I make it fun. I see the positive result that it has in my life. I was able to say, okay, that's a thing about peeling back that layer now, judging people for judging, doing it. And so as you do this, you know, just recognize that there's all these layers. Make it fun. Don't be afraid of your shadow side. I had a friend recently. I made some sort of crack, like as a friend that I loved her through her shadow side. And she was like, Oh, that sounds evil. And then I remembered. Oh, I remember when I felt that way, too, right? That I was afraid of it. And please don't be let that feel that way, because it is so empowering. I think probably to the extent that as if you were to do, say, shadow work first, that the limiting beliefs vaporize with that and you start realizing they were all just ideas. It's all so crazy, but here I am doing this. And so now I want to come back to limiting beliefs because I know a lot of people like that. I definitely have done a lot of work on limiting beliefs. These usually come from your childhood. So what I like to do is I look at a place in my life where I keep having the same pattern over and over again, like I'm trying. I'm doing all these things, and yet I keep having the similar results in that same basic area. And I say, okay, what limiting beliefs do I really have honestly about myself? My worthiness, my ability to do something right? Because it's almost always related to worthiness. We might even disguise it as, Oh, I can't do that, or I just have the skills. I don't have the money to get trained in that. But underneath of it I found for myself and I think that you will as well, that it's it's usually worthiness. And so then get really clear as clear as you can on that and then say, well, where did that come from? And you can usually also see really clearly, I'll give you an example in a minute exactly where that came from. And then is it true? Do I want it to continue to be true? And all of these levels of awareness, it's just like vaporizing the belief, the self-concept in and of itself, but it also gives you so many tangible tools that you can work on. So I wanted to give a great example, a couple of well, as I maybe a year ago actually, I was listening to Dr. Benjamin Hardy, who I highly recommend. I really enjoy his work and it was talking about the story that you are committed to. And I thought, Oh, that's interesting. And I just like started thinking, Well, what kind of stories this self-concept your narrative, your story, what kind of stories am I really committed to in my heart that don't serve me, that are tied to a self-concept that I no longer want to live from or be limited by? And what I realized was that it was the underdog story, right? I can take lemons and make lemonade. Everybody here knows me well, I'll tell you this. And but I realized that it really became part of my self-concept. And I looked at my family and my upbringing. You know, the whole family is like the underdog story, but never excelling past the underdog experience, never really moving into like, oh, now we take our wisdom, we take our skills and we up level it and we do more good things easily. It never gets there, right? As always, trapped in this underdog cycle. So in looking at that and identifying where it came from, I was able to then say, Oh, okay, and no, that's not true. In fact, I can bring my most good to myself, to my family, my kids, the world, the things that I do when I move beyond that, when I start recognizing that the wisdom I gained, gained during the underdog experience is what qualifies, qualifies me to help add a little bit higher of a level, even if I'm just helping myself right, or to perform at a higher level. So my self-concept was an underdog and I kept repeating the underdog pattern. However, when I recognized that and I started looking at, say, conversations that I was having in my own life, am I telling the underdog story? What different story do I want to tell both to people when I'm talking to them and to myself? And to that end, in addition to doing the shadow work, looking for limiting beliefs, asking yourself where to come from, is it true? Look at your language patterns. This is a huge area where we were. We are all the time creating and or reinforcing our self-concept, and it could be also a place where you can expand your self-concept, literally start telling a different story. so there are a bunch of practical everyday tools that you can use to upgrade your self-concept, go out your life and put it in practice.